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Reveal and Express Yourself Little by Little, and Set Yourself Free
It actually takes great courage to speak about what you have kept tightly hidden. If it is frightening and hard, don’t pour it all out at once; go slowly, one sentence, two sentences, three sentences.
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It Is the Hiding Itself That Creates Shame
We feel shame less over what we did than in the hiding of it. And the harder we try to hide, the more fully the side of us we wanted hidden is laid bare.
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Wrecking Your Own Body to Be Recognised
Everyone calls you selfless, and you give until nothing is left. Here is why recognition matters so much to you, and how such help can wreck an addict's recovery.
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I Can’t Do This, and That Is Where It Starts
Saying “I can’t do this” sounds like giving up. In recovery it is where something new begins: what you deny is not yourself but the belief you can solve this yourself.
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I Was Done To: The Sentence Fear Leaves Behind
When criticised, all you can think of is hitting back: that is fear at work. A child left without proper care grows up afraid and may frighten others without meaning to.
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Small Wisdom Will Not Solve a Life
You try hard to live right, yet the same situation keeps coming back. Here is why the small wisdom that sizes things up as profit or loss cannot untangle a life.
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Then What Is There for Pain in the Mind?
You feel low, so you go shopping; your child gives you grief, so you pour a drink. This is how addiction works: it looks outside for relief from the pain inside.
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One Drink, and You Cannot Hear It
All day a voice you barely notice calls you a fool, and one drink shuts it off. The same verdict on yourself keeps the drink in hand and stops God's love getting in.
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The Drink Is Not the Idol. The Self Is.
As a child you said it hurt and were told to be quiet, so you kept your feelings in until one drink let them out. Here is why addiction works like a painkiller.
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You Can’t Drag Anyone Into Loving Themselves
Someone close to you keeps running themselves down, and you want to step in. Trust has to come before any suggestion, and you cannot practise self-love for them.